Discussing The Dynamics of Gender and Sex Work

Men and women are inherently wired to collaborate differently. In brief, this is due to social and biological factors during development. When examining dating behaviors across genders, it becomes evident that various species engage in behaviors to enhance their value in the mating market, leveraging evolved traits to attract potential mates. Similarly, in human society, actions like finding a job, pursuing education, or maintaining physical fitness enhance one's marketability to potential partners, whether consciously acknowledged or not. Drawing from evolutionary perspectives, men historically diversified food and shelter to support their potential genetic offspring. Understanding human alloparenting as a form of cooperative breeding sheds light on how individuals collaborate within a group to breed and care for all children. This cooperative behavior likely evolved alongside human monogamy and preceded alloparenting and cooperative breeding practices. The positive feedback loop between paternal caregiving, sibling relatedness, cooperative breeding, and alloparental care highlights how human societies have optimized child-rearing strategies for increased child survivorship and decreased inter-birth intervals.

Exploring the dynamics of risk and gender roles, traditional roles assign men the responsibility of providing food and shelter, while childcare remains a dangerous endeavor. The evolution of sex as an incentivized behavior linked to pleasure with the natural outcome of childbirth has profound social and biological influences that shape hierarchies and societal structures. Human beings, as social creatures, utilize sex as a social lubricant, with parallels observed in bonobo societies where sex is employed to diffuse tensions and settle disputes.

Sex work is not just work. Bringing back the humanity to sex work is important. You're not just changing a tire here. You're not a cab for someone who wants a ride. You and your client have a reproductive and social exchange. Sex workers famously call their clients “dates…” and proposition their clients by saying, "Do you want a date?” because it is difficult to disseminate having a date where you have sex and having sex as a job.